Wellness Wednesday where have you been all my life! I’ve been a little disconnected but there’s just been so much going on this month. Mainly with my personal life, some exciting things are happening as you know, but still working on that balance over here. Anyway, today I wanted to touch on choices. I’ve been thinking about maybe starting a series on little chapters of my life that have brought me here but still debating on that.
So, choices. Over the course of last month to now, I felt so down due to choices I’ve made in my life. I’m slowly learning that whether those choices are good or bad, they don’t define who I am, it was just who I was at the time and what I perhaps thought was best. It’s just so hard to not beat myself down for it.
I was inspired to write this post today because Stephanie Dawn Elizabeth (@stephaniedawnelizabeth) shared a post on how gentile you are with you past self. It immediately got me thinking of all the bad choices I’ve made, the lies I’ve said to hide those choices. It’s such a heavy burden to carry. It’s depressing and it hurts. It’s so easy to feel shame and regret… but if there’s something I’ve learned recently it’s that because of those bad choices I am the woman I am today. I’ve learned so much over the past 5-8 years of myself, of who I am, and how to do and be better. I don’t know if I would be able to say that if I hadn’t made those choices. I had to go through it to learn.
I didn’t want to dwell to much on this, I just wanted to serve a reminder to you, yes you who’s reading this now, that those choices don’t define who you are. You have the power to change and improve if you really desire it. You hold the key to your life, your future, your future choices!
Feeling shame and regret feed off those insecurities and eventually will make us doubt. The thing is you can’t dwell on the past, simply because you can’t change it. All we can do is move forward and try to make better conscious decisions. So honestly, forget what people may say or think about you. You know you! You know the truth, and in the end that’s all that matters.
If you’re up for sharing, I’d like to hear how you’ve handled bad choices and that regret. What is something you do to show yourself love or be gentile with your old self? Let’s chat about it in the comments below!
PS: You can’t change the beginning, but you can change the ending.
Till the next post!